when i did my regrettable ok cupid splurge, the trusty bumbler linked to this New Yorker piece on internet dating.

i just started reading it and got to this lovely bit.

''I had a talk-about-dating date with a freelance researcher named Julia Kamin, who, over twelve years as a dater on various sites, has boiled down all the competing compatibility criteria to the question of, as she put it, “Are we laughing at the same shit?”

all of love and dating and relationships boiled down into a perfect sentence of exquisite, beautiful truth. 'are we laughing at the same shit?'

yes sir.

anyway......it's a decent article worth reading...

Read more http://www.newyorker.com/reporting/2011/07/04/110704fa_fact_paumgarten#ixzz1SUu8FBwC